trust your ability to bounce back

Well, hello!  It’s been a while, hasn’t it?  About 8 months to be exact.  But here I am, bouncing back, ready to share new adventures with all of you curious people.  Let’s recap, shall we?

previously, on choose happy…

After that last post about letting go, I struggled with actually letting go.  It took me a couple more months to figure out what that truly meant.  But today, I am here telling you that divorce was one of the best things to ever happen to me.  It might sound crazy, but I am a better version of myself after learning AND accepting what it was I wanted out of life.  Oh, and every one of the horrible circumstances I endured ultimately led me to Aaron [cheesy grin goes here].

Now, I am navigating this new relationship with this incredible human being and for the first time, I feel like everything is happening the way it is supposed to.  I look back at all of the mistakes that I have made and the red flags that I have ignored over and over again in my past relationships and I realize, it all happened for a reason.  I have grown in so many different ways because of those challenges and now I am comfortable with just being me and sharing that person with a guy I thought only existed in dreams [it’s over the top, i know].  I am lucky, I am happy, and I feel like I can do anything – well, almost anything.

 “I am not a product of my circumstances, I am a product of my decisions.” 

– Stephen Covey

A couple of years ago, I was in a bad car accident.  I was in physical therapy for four months and essentially, had to learn how to walk properly again.  But, I bounced back.  I bounced back so much that I started this bad ass workout program called 80 Day Obsession at the end of May this year.  I was on point with my nutrition, my workouts, and I was feeling AMAZING… until day 40 when I reinjured my back.  That was about a month ago and I have been miserable since.  I am back in treatment and seeing a chiropractor 3 times a week; I can’t work out and it hurts to wear high heels.  So naturally, I spiraled into a routine of shitty food and lots of beer.

But, that is changing on August 6th.  [we are finally to the reason for this blog post, by the way] I need to snap out of this nonsense.  I was looking for something that would hold me accountable, that would challenge me, and that would help me feel better, so I decided to do the 21 Day Ultimate Reset by Beachbody.  And, I’m going to share the entire experience with anyone who cares to read about it on this blog.  So, if you’re interested in the effects a detox/cleanse with real foods, minerals, and supplements can have on the body, you may want to check in with me from time to time.  I am going to post a few goals for this week on my Lifestyle page that should help me prepare for the program.  6 days to go…  join me, won’t you?!


Please understand, I am not a doctor or a nutritionist, or anything else that falls under the umbrella of giving medical advice.  I am simply interested in resetting my body and my mindset so I can get back to a place where I feel good physically and mentally. 

life is better when you’re laughing

 “the most wasted of all days is one without laughter.” – ee cummings

Facebook tells me that last year on this day, I was drinking wine out of my new Kate Spade “his & hers” glasses that we received as a wedding gift.  [side eye, annoyed emoji goes here]  A pro and con of social media: reminders of all the memories in your life.  But hey, I’m dealing with it.  A quick scroll and I’m right back in the land of mindless cat memes and Chive articles.  Isn’t that funny?  One moment, you can be cringing at a painful photo and the next, you can be laughing uncontrollably at a baby goat saying “what’s up?”.  But, that’s my point.  We have a choice.  We can wallow in the sadness of something that no longer exists or we can move on and just fucking laugh at something else.  We can choose happy.

 And, it’s healthy!  No joke, I did a little research on the health benefits of laughing, and things like “improved immune system” and “relieve pain” came up.  If you think about it, it’s true; those moments when you’re sobbing and you feel like you can’t breathe and then your sister makes a stupid joke and you instantly find the ability to laugh.  Your body is basically providing you with its own painkillers while endorphins are released from your brain.  Oh, and apparently it burns calories, which is helpful in my case since I’ve eaten my weight in pizza and Thai food since filing for divorce.  But, in all seriousness, aside from my amazing support system, laughing really does help me feel better about myself and my situation.  [also, I feel like an asshole for rolling my eyes all those times my grandma said “laughter is the best medicine.”]

Speaking of medicine, I went to see A Bad Mom’s Christmas on opening night and I must say, it was the ultimate stress relief.  I don’t have children, but I could still relate to everything in that movie and I am telling you, I NEVER stopped laughing.  It didn’t get great reviews, but don’t let that fool you.  I would watch this over and over again (with or without alcohol).  Grab your friends, take a night off, and go see this movie.  And don’t forget to laugh today.

warning: this trailer may be inappropriate for little ones.